My father in law is in the hospital again in a step down intensive care unit. Looks like he won't be able to make the wedding. We don't know how long he will be in the hospital, but he will most likely need to go to rehab after his stay there, if they can get him stabilized. We weren't sure that he could handle the wedding, but my mother in law felt he should be there if he could, so we were just playing it by ear. Now we know he will be safe in the hospital or rehab and my 89 year old mother in law will be able to have an evening not worrying about him. I know it will be sad for her not to have him there, as it will be for all of us.
My 89 year old father decided that he could not make the wedding as well due to his health problems. We were able to get a companion to stay with him for the evening. She will stay until he goes to bed, and then he will have an hour or so alone until my mom arrives home. I have tried to talk to him about coming. We all believe it is doable for him, but he just is too afraid to leave the house now. He resists any creative solutions to his problems(wheel chair, scooter, etc.). If he can't function like he used to, he just doesn't want to do it. It was just making him mad when we came up with more plans. " I know how I feel," he would snap at tell me.
I know we need to respect how he feels, we were just trying to help him to enjoy life some.while he still can. He has become so rigid with his thinking, which I know comes with just being 89! But we are all sad he won't be with us that day as well.
So the grandmas will be there alone, and the grandsons will be escorting them in for the introductions.
One of my cousins was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago. She has been having some serious reactions to the chemo and had to miss the bridal shower. She finally finished her chemo, but still is dealing with the side effects.We are hoping she will be able to attend the wedding, but she won't really know until that day. We so want her to be there, and she is so anxious to get back to living her life. I keep her in my thoughts and prayers and just want her to get well again.
People who can not be there in person due to illness or old age will be there in spirit because we are all connected in one loving heart, and that is one thing I know for sure.
My 89 year old father decided that he could not make the wedding as well due to his health problems. We were able to get a companion to stay with him for the evening. She will stay until he goes to bed, and then he will have an hour or so alone until my mom arrives home. I have tried to talk to him about coming. We all believe it is doable for him, but he just is too afraid to leave the house now. He resists any creative solutions to his problems(wheel chair, scooter, etc.). If he can't function like he used to, he just doesn't want to do it. It was just making him mad when we came up with more plans. " I know how I feel," he would snap at tell me.
I know we need to respect how he feels, we were just trying to help him to enjoy life some.while he still can. He has become so rigid with his thinking, which I know comes with just being 89! But we are all sad he won't be with us that day as well.
So the grandmas will be there alone, and the grandsons will be escorting them in for the introductions.
One of my cousins was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago. She has been having some serious reactions to the chemo and had to miss the bridal shower. She finally finished her chemo, but still is dealing with the side effects.We are hoping she will be able to attend the wedding, but she won't really know until that day. We so want her to be there, and she is so anxious to get back to living her life. I keep her in my thoughts and prayers and just want her to get well again.
People who can not be there in person due to illness or old age will be there in spirit because we are all connected in one loving heart, and that is one thing I know for sure.
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I'm so glad my mom uses a scooter. Mobility is everything, but you can't convince someone who is set in their ways. It's too bad the guys won't be there. I'm sure they're fine with it, and you'll have lots of pictures to show them.
BTW, Bed Bath and Beyond probably carries the palm peeler. I got the one with serrated blades to also peel fruit.
Ai yi. Sorry to hear about the difficulties with your dad. Mom agreed to come to the wedding, but not the reception, no matter how hard we tried to persuade her. Reason: "everyone" would notice how often she spilled things because of her near blindness. So we arranged for a neighbor to drive her to the wedding and take her home "immediately afterward," as she wished. The caterers even wrapped up plates to take home. Later, of course, she was full of complaints about "not being invited to the reception." Ya can't win.
Enjoy the wedding.
WHat a beautiful way to sum it all up. I love your attitude.
:)
Sigh. Jamie is right.. you've got a great attitude about things, even if it won't be the same.
Hugs!
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